Greetings readers (a.k.a my Mom and close friends).
While out to eat with my best friend Morgan for our belated #NationalBestFriendDay Celebration, we realized that it has been one year since my ex and I split (and also, the day that Morgan incidentally assumed all duties of said ex without being my boyfriend. Love you, Morgan).
I also realized how much I have grown since then…don’t get me wrong, I still have A LONG WAY TO GO. Think of me as like a building that once exploded, but one year later they cleaned up the mess and put a for sale sign on the empty plot of land. #ProgressNotPerfection.
This blog is about to get really real, so if you’re not into all that, you can kindly leave. I have no audience at this point, so it’s not really a loss. That’s me practicing #SelfLove.
But, in the past year I’ve learned a few important lessons, that I will share with you:
1. Say Yes to Everything Until You Have to Say No
Take that trip, buy that jumpsuit, go to that Smash Mouth concert the traveling bassist invited you…let him take you out and kiss you afterwards even though it was completely TERRIBLE, and he’ll unfollow you on social media one week later #TrueStory. Chalk it all up to experience. Life is a giant story you create for yourself, and if you sit back and say no to everything, your pages will be blank. Say yes, and let the rest figure itself out. Even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll have one heck of a story to tell.
2. You are a Luxury and People Deserve Your Time…Not the Other Way Around
Don’t let ANYONE make you feel like you need to go above and beyond to impress them. They should be happy with your true self. If you’re stressing over being who you are around someone you’re dating, get out of that relationship. It’s that simple. You are special enough to find someone who appreciates you for who you are. No one wants to waste their time trying to be someone they’re not…take it from me a few years back, it’s exhausting.
3. You are Your Own Best Company
I know this sounds like the most difficult concept, and a load of BS, but I swear you’ll be so impressed at what you can do on your own. I’ve mentioned it before, but I am SO FORTUNATE to be able to travel for work. When I first did so, I’ll admit…I was terrified. But, soon I was able to figure out how to exist on my own and truly enjoy my company. Flying by yourself is the most amazing experience ever…no annoying #TravelDads (sorry, Dad) getting at the gate 3 hours early to be the first one to board, seeing all the sights you want to see (I saw the Colorado National Monument, Churchill Downs, The Mall of America, and The Shops at Highland Park, just to name a few), and even going places alone.
This tip is so long I need to continue it on a new paragraph. Bear with me. I used to HATE the thought of going out to eat alone so much, that I mentioned it on air once at my old job and a coworker of mine called me out for being completely ridiculous. He was right…I eat alone on practically all of my business trips now. Not only am I still alive, but I actually enjoy the experience. Sometimes I get to know my bartenders (looking at you, cute Jeremy in Dallas), sometimes I catch up on the news and social media. Either way, it’s a good lesson on how to be independent.
A year ago, when I found myself fresh out of a 5 and a half year relationship, I thought my life was ending. Little did I know, my life was just BEGINNING. I’m not sure how I ever expected to ever be able to find someone who could love me for who I am until I learned to love myself. Right now, I am taking the time to do that…and I’m confident the right guy will roll around once I completely figure myself out (Chris Pratt, *cough cough*).
Till that day comes, I’m cool with being my own soulmate. Here’s to all the fun I’ll experience with myself in the meantime.
Love yourself, cause at the end of the day, you’re all you’ve got.